emotions, sentiments, and a whole load of bs (not really)

so i'm starting to feel like emotions are just a whole load of shit. they really aren't though. hear me out. a lot of people have called me sentimental, and at the same time judged me for being 'emotionless'. i've also seen people hurt and act out on their loved ones without much reason, and mask their tantrum with the simple phrase "i'm emotional", and a shrug. some of these amazing "emotional" people have also said "don't be so senti, it's cringe", when i cry while watching a movie. i've always had a problem with the words emotional, emotionless and sentimental- some kind of anger towards those 3 words, formed because of people around me having their own effed up definitions of them- so i'm going to tackle these words, one by one.

emotions and emotional people. emotional people act out- they react to situations immediately without thinking or processing it. emotions are automatic, and pretty much uncontrollable. they are short-lived, so people basically just let it all out and forget about it.

sentiments and sentimental people, though, are a different category. for one, they overthink- a LOT. they usually don't react immediately, they think things through and then form and direct an emotion like anger, fear, or hatred towards a person or object. now, please note this point- sentimental people also have emotions! yes, we aren't some kind of cold, emotionless species, so please, cut us some slack! we senti people are just better at controlling their emotions. the feeling that they form towards something or someone after deep, i repeat DEEP thought, however, is long-lasting. on a lighter note, beware the hatred of a sentimental person, cause it'll last a whole freaking lifetime!

now, last but not least, emotionlessness, the word i despise the most. it definitely exists, but i think there are only 2 believable scenarios of people being emotionless: one is someone going through a hard time, feeling numb, and struggling to connect with their own emotions and feelings, and two- someone who voluntarily distracts themselves from their emotions and obstinately refuses to acknowledge how they feel. both these kinds of people have, or at least have had, emotions- they're just finding it hard to understand the emotions. if you're someone who says "i'm emotionless" but doesn't fit into either category, then please, nadikkaadhadaa.

moral of the story: nah just kidding there's no moral, avlo scene illa. but guys, stop calling people emotionless- trust me, you don't know what they're going through. they may just be having a tough time expressing their emotions, and you may just be making it worse. so think before you call someone something, no matter what!

xoxo, adhira

sometimes a hug is all we need for ALL that emotion to come pouring out. maybe breakdowns could be a good thing? maybe....